A man can learn much about what women want by watching the tactics of online Lotharios. One particular Casanova caught my attention, not for his flattering tactics, but for the overwhelming response, he was getting. This man has created a simple formula. He seeks out women, who are a little older than 30, but who are smart, independent and who take very good care of themselves.

Why this particular group of women, you might ask? Well, they are at high risk for feeling as if they have lost some of their sexuality. Most are either married, have kids, and or are very successful at business. Just past their careless youth, they have started to see themselves as less attractive than they once were. This makes them very vulnerable to someone who notices that they are still a beautiful woman.

While others in their life might occasionally notice that, they “look good for their age.” Not many are validating that thought to these lovely ladies. Over time, a once strong sense of confidence can take a huge hit. Then someone comes along who is intriguing, interesting, and attractive. This man notices her charms and finds subtle ways to make her feel beautiful and desirable, two very powerful emotions. To someone who has not felt those emotions for quite some time, it can be intoxicating.

Thus, enter online Romeo. He spots his lovely target and starts his grooming process. You may think, “Why do I care what some online guy does to get women fawning after him?” Why, because it WORKS; and by using his simple tactics you can make yourself irresistible to the woman or women in your own life!

10 Steps That Will Make You Irresistible to Women:

1. Notice and compliment her appearance. Be charming, not slimy.
2. Be a little ornery and flirt in very subtle and non-threatening ways.
3. Pay attention to what she says, likes, and does. Ask her about it.
4. Engage her in conversations that matters to her. Get her talking about herself.
5. Pay attention to her. Text, Facebook, or email her sweet pick me ups.
6. Don’t forget important dates, events or occasions. Act appropriately.
7. LISTEN to her stories, pay attention, and take notes for future talks.
8. Answer her inquiries. If she texts, emails, Facebook’s or calls, respond quickly.
9. Build her confidence, flatter her, make her feel sexy and attractive.
10. Be charming, romantic, and sexy with your interactions.

At this point you may think, “This is a lot of work, and it is all about her. What about me?” Again, why would you want to do all that? It is simple, because when women feel sexy and attractive, they will ACT in sexy ways (dress sexy, talk sexy and act sexy). She will think about you all of the time, think about sex and think of ways to please you. She will be completely caught up in YOU.

Your behavior sets the hook; from there she will treat you just as you had always hoped a woman would. If you have trouble finding and keeping women in a relationship with you, what have you got to lose? Treat a woman like your mom, and she will treat you like a son. Treat a woman like a Queen and she will treat you like a King. The tone you set in your interactions will create the way your woman feels about you and how she sees you (Prince Charming vs. The Old Ball and Chain). After all, if you want to talk about yourself, I’m sure you can find some of your guy friends that will listen.

In summary, when you spend time with a woman, talking about her, and flattering her (making her happy), she will want to spend her time making you happy (you can fill in this blank!). Remember if you choose not to treat your lady like a queen, there are now many men out there who have figured this system out, and would love to take her off of your hands! Forget about the “What’s in it for me” mentality. Get your own “Romeo” on, because small shifts in your behavior will create big shifts in hers. You can do this!

Lisa Schilling RN, BSN, CPT
Speaker, Writer, Wellness Coach & Consultant

Lisa Schilling is the author of “The Get REAL Guide to Health and Fitness-FIVE STEPS to Create Your Own Personal Wellness Plan.” She juggles life as a doting wife and the mother of three boys, who keep her feet firmly planted on the ground!

Lisa is a Registered Nurse, author and recovering pageant queen, who spreads hope with her Get REAL approach to wellness. She empowers women, caregivers and groups to unleash their fullest potential by helping them to see their true beauty and discover their REAL value.

Plain and simple. If you want people to know you, really know you. If you want to be memorable and be remembered, as an individual and leader, then consider intentionally practicing intimacy. Intimacy stands for “in-to-me-see.” To what extent do you let people see into you – by being open enough to share your likes, passions, values, hopes and dreams?

I was four, a Minnesotan visiting India. A local girl asked me for money. As a grown up, I realize what this was about, but at the time I recall being surprised she would think I had money. My parents had money, not me. I just wanted to play with her. I thought, “Why is she asking me that? I am a kid, just like she is.” I remember the feeling of her beautiful eyes on me, and I somehow knew she was not really seeing me, but seeing something I represented to her. I felt invisible.

At 15 I spent a semester in France. Older, yet still surprised when time and again French adults would talk to me about American politics in a way that was clear I represented the US government to them. I felt clearly as they spoke that I was being looked at as if I were personally accountable for the President’s actions. Again, the disconnect and distinct sensation of not being seen for who I am.

As an adult, I noticed that even people close to me had no idea of what to get me for my birthday, vs. the people whose interests are clear to everyone. It dawned on me that my intense interest in getting to know people made me a great listener, but not as good at reciprocating so that people saw in-to-me. People not knowing what I would like as a gift was a symptom of my lack of sharing enough of myself. I want people to really know me – my interests, challenges, and thoughts. I want them to feel truly connected to me rather than just knowing of me or about me. What of you do you wish more people would know and see? What would the difference be if you didn’t hold it back?

As pre-work for a peer mentoring leadership circle I led at a medical device company for Cheryl Alexander & Associates, we read Ubuntu, by Nelson and Lundin. This book introduces an African greeting meaning “I am here to see you and be seen by you.” Imagine the individual and leader we each will become if we enter into every interaction saying to ourselves “Ubuntu,” as a reminder to be open, present and focused on equally “seeing” the other person and being fully “seen.”

Tamara Sulistyo, COO, Cheryl Alexander & Associates, Inc.

In relationships, resentment can often build and build. An amazing tool that can help reduce the negative feelings is ‘clearing a withhold.’ In clearing a withhold with your partner, family member, parent, child, neighbor or friend, the following elements need to be present:

1. Safety: There needs to be a feeling of safety when engaging in difficult conversations. When something creates a riff, separation or distance between you and a loved One, it’s sensitive and vulnerable, and often triggering. Safety makes it easier, more palatable and adds ease where there may be discomfort. The first step, asking your partner whether s/he is available for a conversation, provides a container for connecting and therefore, safety. There are other aspects of safety too, of course, and the following complete the picture.

2. Respect: Without respect for each other, there’s little you can do to create deep connection. However, respect can be ruptured in little, subconscious ways. First and foremost, take your partners words and expressions as Truth. You may not agree; it may seem “irrational” to you; you may even find what s/he has said “funny.” But to your partner, it’s True — and therefore serious business. Listen beneath the surface to what they are saying. People use words but words only communicate 1/10th of what they are expressing. Get quiet and listen to your beloved. Offer reverence, and therefore respect, for their unique inner journey.

3. Willingness: This is a biggie! Are you willing to participate in a conversation that might be difficult? There ‘may’ be the reward of loving connection at the end or there may not be! (at least not right away.) You must be willing, or access a part of you that is willing, in order to open your heart to sharing (and listening well) to your partner.

4. Desire: The desire to reconnect, open to deeper love, take risks, be vulnerable — these all need to be present. We don’t clear withholds or have difficult conversations if we do not desire to be closer. Intimacy is about desire first and foremost — for connection. Tune into your own desire. Notice parts of you that are afraid. How much is okay to truly desire?
Take a moment to consider the 4 aspects above. Are they present in your relationships? Which one feels most challenging to you?

TANTRA TIP: Look over your weekend plans and determine an hour of time that you will be alone (or can be) with your sweetie. Ask him/her to spend that hour just with you. Set your timer for safety and find a designated space in your home to connect. The following are options for how to spend your time although I suggest you all do #1 first.

1. Sit face-to-face, eyes closed and breathe together. Bring your breath up from the earth to the top of your head and back down. Make your breath audible so that your partner can hear you. Breathe in and out together. After 5 minutes, open your eyes and practice with your eyes open for 5 minutes.

2. Have a stone or other sacred object available. Take turns sharing the highlights from your week. This is not a time for conversation back/forth but for each to share and be heard.

3. Offer each other appreciations.

4. Clear withholds if needed (empty your basket of resentment!)

5. Lie down both facing the same direction. The person in the back, puts one hand on her partner’s heart and the other on her belly. Breathe together. Connect and love each other.

Talking to guys can be difficult, but trying to establish a real connection with a man you’re interested in can seem impossible. Do you find yourself wondering how to make yourself the woman he falls madly in love with, but don’t know how? Have you had trouble communicating your feelings and desires to a certain guy? Men are complex creatures, but they are not quite as hard to figure out as you might think. Here are a few suggestions to make that deeper connection and get him to fall for you.

Let Everything Else Go
If you’re with your guy and want to focus on him, the best thing is to let everything around you not matter, even just for a few minutes. Whether it’s one of the first dates or you’ve been together for years, it’s important to make time for him mentally. Clear your head of all negative thoughts. Don’t judge him, don’t force your opinion on him, and don’t ask anything of him. Remember that every time you see him is a brand new chance to get to know him better and to get closer to him. Don’t hold on to trivial errors in your relationship or previous dates – did he expect you to pick up the check without asking? Who cares. Ask yourself this: will it affect your relationship in the long run? If not, lay it to rest. In the end, you’ll both feel better about the time you spend together if it’s not wasted rehashing things that cannot be altered. Subconsciously, he will know that you are there for only him and it will make him feel loved and attended to.

To Know Him Is to Love Him
Once all of the little details are out of the way, take a look at the man you love. How much do you know about him? From his favorite food to his career goals, there is always more to learn. Do you know his plans for the future? Does he want to stay at his current job? Does he want to get married? Is he a cat person or a dog person? All of these questions should be ones you can easily answer. You can get trapped in your own head and project your own opinions and desires onto him, which can be the kiss of death for a relationship. You will not agree on everything throughout the duration of your relationship, and it is important to recognize, address and discuss your differences in opinion. Not only will you strengthen your relationship, but you will be able to let him feel comfortable and secure in telling you his innermost thoughts. When he knows he won’t be judged, even when you don’t agree, he will be more willing to express himself to you. Accepting his preferences even when they don’t mirror your own proves that you are a willing partner and let him feel much closer to you.

Ask Yourself How He Feels
A good method to empathizing with anyone is to try to imagine a situation from their perspective. This is especially true of men in relationships. When you have difficulties or arguments, stop for a moment and consider where he’s coming from. Think about what the motivation for his argument is and why it seems valid to him. You don’t have to resolve the issue at hand, but it will make a great impact on your ability to communicate with him in these times of high stress and raw emotion.

If you really want your man to fall madly in love with you, the only way is to establish a deep, lasting bond with him. Giving him a safe place to express himself that is free from aggression is a step in the right direction. Once he trusts you wholeheartedly, he can’t help but fall in love with you.

Hannah Fairfield is a dating and relationship expert. Her passion is to write informative articles for women who want to improve their love lives. Visit her site for more information.

In his book, “The Way of the Superior Man”, the author David Deida talks about the masculine energy and the feminine energy. The masculine energy is characterized by a free spirit, while the feminine energy is mainly about finding a sense of security and stability. This pretty much explains why most women look forward to settling down, and why most men value their freedom.

From the time they are little girls, women dream about getting married to her dream guy and building a nice little family. This is basically why the ladies are attracted to men who appear to have their stuff together – those with more-or-less stable jobs or good plans for their lives. Women aren’t necessarily drawn to men who are rich or powerful, but they typically like guys who are responsible, assertive and motivated.

When a man falls in love with a woman, he senses that desire in her and seeks to provide the stability and security that she longs for. In the meantime, he feels the need to fulfill his craving for freedom, and this causes a constant conflict within him – but that inner conflict isn’t really what I want to focus on right now. I want to discuss how you can be a man that women are attracted to, simply by being aware of women’s nature.

Keep in mind that a female is essentially interested in a male who can be her rock – someone who is strong (not necessarily physically), stable and solid. She wants a man who can take care of her, the kind of man she can count on.

The way a guy approaches a girl is crucial: When you come up to her and show even the tiniest lack of self-confidence, that immediately becomes a reason for her not to be attracted to you. Anything like fidgeting, waffling, a limp handshake, or a failure to make eye contact can be an instant turn off; that kind of behavior tells her you don’t trust yourself, and therefore she couldn’t depend on you. If she senses that you can’t be her rock, she easily loses interest.

Whenever you approach a woman, make it a point to see yourself as a rock. You will definitely need to have a good attitude toward yourself to exude confidence. As you get ready to come up to her, breathe deeply; shake off all timidity and insecurity. Tell yourself you’ve got this. Show no doubt – not even a hint. Be solid and well-composed. However, remember to maintain a good balance: You should neither be an arrogant, macho jerk nor a spineless, cowardly wimp; you should instead be a man who maintains an air of superiority while being able to be sensitive to a woman.

Be equipped to initiate the conversation, making sure to speak clearly and confidently. Speak sincerely from your heart – there’s no need to make things up just to impress her. If you know what to say and are able to say it at the right time, this shows a lady that you could be her rock.

The next time you come up to a woman at a club, keep these things in mind. Believe that you are the kind of man she can count on, so you can easily show it without having to say it.

By the way, do you want the simple secret for approaching any woman, anywhere and know exactly what to say to get her number?

What Is Numerology Love?

As with many fields of divination, Numerology is useful in ascertaining a wide range of information and truths regarding a great number of things. “Numerology Love” is as apt a term as any to describe the manner by which one might determine a couple’s romantic compatibility with one another using numerical divination. Numerology love compatibility relies on the given numerical attributes of the individuals in question; these attributes are discerned through dates of birth. Corresponding emotional characteristics are derived from the numeric value of the individual’s date of birth.

Mathematics Mixed With Spirituality

Numerology love compatibility is vital in establishing how successful a relationship based on the concept of numerology love will turn out. There are a variety of possible numerical systems and mathematics involved in establishing the base rules of numerology compatibility, as well as the subsequent retrieval of reliable individual characteristics divined through numerology. Accurately following through in fulfilling the prerequisites and providing honest information is the key to yielding results. Numerology Compatibility is very much a spiritual practice, and is to be treated with respect, due diligence, and one must be prepared to honor and properly emulate the time-tested traditions and practices of the study.

A Self-fulfilling Prophecy

Though numerology may not be considered by many to be a “serious” means of study or a method of divination with any real weight behind its teachings, there still exists a loyal following, as ‘archaic’ as some may argue it to be. As with many similar fields of study, numerology is rooted deeply in spirituality and abstract notions of divining purpose, meaning, and truth from something that lies out of the individual’s control. While some may be put off by the apparent lack of a factual foundation by which to back up the methodology of numerology, it can be a very beneficial asset for the deeply spiritual or those who put more stock in the unseen or “paranormal”. Therein lies one of the most powerful “truths” of numerology, or any other divination; the power of the self-fulfilling prophecy, or the manner in which our very perceptions and beliefs may shape our destiny.

The Reality Of Numerology

Some people believe that Numerology is so arbitrary that anyone could formulate any outcome they wish by simply manipulating the power and influences of the numbers.The opposite is true however, as a trained numerologist number interpreter must work within the guidelines of the “modes” of numerology to assess and reveal any analysis at all.