A man can learn much about what women want by watching the tactics of online Lotharios. One particular Casanova caught my attention, not for his flattering tactics, but for the overwhelming response, he was getting. This man has created a simple formula. He seeks out women, who are a little older than 30, but who are smart, independent and who take very good care of themselves.
Why this particular group of women, you might ask? Well, they are at high risk for feeling as if they have lost some of their sexuality. Most are either married, have kids, and or are very successful at business. Just past their careless youth, they have started to see themselves as less attractive than they once were. This makes them very vulnerable to someone who notices that they are still a beautiful woman.
While others in their life might occasionally notice that, they “look good for their age.” Not many are validating that thought to these lovely ladies. Over time, a once strong sense of confidence can take a huge hit. Then someone comes along who is intriguing, interesting, and attractive. This man notices her charms and finds subtle ways to make her feel beautiful and desirable, two very powerful emotions. To someone who has not felt those emotions for quite some time, it can be intoxicating.
Thus, enter online Romeo. He spots his lovely target and starts his grooming process. You may think, “Why do I care what some online guy does to get women fawning after him?” Why, because it WORKS; and by using his simple tactics you can make yourself irresistible to the woman or women in your own life!
10 Steps That Will Make You Irresistible to Women:
- Notice and compliment her appearance. Be charming, not slimy.
- Be a little ornery and flirt in very subtle and non-threatening ways.
- Pay attention to what she says, likes, and does. Ask her about it.
- Engage her in conversations that matters to her. Get her talking about herself.
- Pay attention to her. Text, Facebook, or email her sweet pick me ups.
- Don’t forget important dates, events or occasions. Act appropriately.
- LISTEN to her stories, pay attention, and take notes for future talks.
- Answer her inquiries. If she texts, emails, Facebook’s or calls, respond quickly.
- Build her confidence, flatter her, make her feel sexy and attractive.
- Be charming, romantic, and sexy with your interactions.
At this point you may think, “This is a lot of work, and it is all about her. What about me?” Again, why would you want to do all that? It is simple, because when women feel sexy and attractive, they will ACT in sexy ways (dress sexy, talk sexy and act sexy). She will think about you all of the time, think about sex and think of ways to please you. She will be completely caught up in YOU.
Your behavior sets the hook; from there she will treat you just as you had always hoped a woman would. If you have trouble finding and keeping women in a relationship with you, what have you got to lose? Treat a woman like your mom, and she will treat you like a son. Treat a woman like a Queen and she will treat you like a King. The tone you set in your interactions will create the way your woman feels about you and how she sees you (Prince Charming vs. The Old Ball and Chain). After all, if you want to talk about yourself, I’m sure you can find some of your guy friends that will listen.
In summary, when you spend time with a woman, talking about her, and flattering her (making her happy), she will want to spend her time making you happy (you can fill in this blank!). Remember if you choose not to treat your lady like a queen, there are now many men out there who have figured this system out, and would love to take her off of your hands! Forget about the “What’s in it for me” mentality. Get your own “Romeo” on, because small shifts in your behavior will create big shifts in hers. You can do this!
Lisa Schilling RN, BSN, CPT
Speaker, Writer, Wellness Coach & Consultant
Lisa Schilling is the author of “The Get REAL Guide to Health and Fitness-FIVE STEPS to Create Your Own Personal Wellness Plan.” She juggles life as a doting wife and the mother of three boys, who keep her feet firmly planted on the ground!
Lisa is a Registered Nurse, author and recovering pageant queen, who spreads hope with her Get REAL approach to wellness. She empowers women, caregivers and groups to unleash their fullest potential by helping them to see their true beauty and discover their REAL value.
It has helped bring thousands of people together by helping them understand themselves and each other will be feeling better. Why not get this right the first time? The men and women of the same sign manifest the characteristics of the zodiac differently, Scorpio woman and a Pisces man may be compatible in a different way, even may be feel more or less, than a Scorpio man and a Pisces woman.
There is good and better site on the Internet about the horoscope signs, especially people see the same combination viewed from both sides man/ woman depending on which sign is the man and which sign is the woman.
With the Sun and Moon it is the time to acknowledge your feelings in the year 2012. Intuition and emotion are emphasized, as the cosmic lights invite people to explore what lies beneath the mental chatter.
The Moon is may be in her disseminating phase, which emphasizes learning and sharing with each. In this Moon phase the experience and wisdom gained through the waxing part of phases may be passed along. The Moon phase is said to symbolize the archetype of the teacher. Since this year disseminating phase occurs in Pisces sign, a meandering water sign, this is very much going with kind of weekend in all months of year, especially regarding feelings, creativity and fantasy.
With both Saturn and Venus now direct feeling the people, may be increasing barriers or confusion that prevented progress are removed or overcome in your mind. Energy planet Mars has finally changed signs in last time, for the first of November 2012, offering new enthusiasm and a fresh sense of direction in new works.
With Mars in Libra in last month of current year both the relationship planets, Venus and Mars are energizing with air signs. If you like to make the romance or passion, communication is main point.
This is also makes for some sensational phases viewing. If you are an early riser, you will first see Jupiter, and then your Venus over the horizon before the Sun comes up. Mars and Saturn are visible from Sun set until around midnight.
There are many people who are shy in nature. They are afraid of talking to new persons. This many a times affect their personal life too. If you find yourself standing in the same queue, you can join the world of internet. This will provide you many chances to talk to different people, especially your age group. The world of communication can be joined through networking websites like face book, Gmail talk, and yahoo chat and so on. People seeking to get a date online can register with online dating sites. And if you are not sure how to go about it, then there are many service providers offering Online Dating Email Tips. You just need to sign up for the concerned account and emails will start to follow your inbox. Professionals are engaged in writing these suggestions, so that it can help you significantly when impressing someone. Further, you can discuss your problems that are coming into your way. It is guaranteed that you will get the solutions.
Here is a set of useful Online Dating Email Advice that might help you to get great ideas.
- Whatever you do, make sure you are not following the old tips to chase your date online. Write some creative wordings, which can attract the person chatting with you. However, the language needs to be easy to understand.
- Give the person more preference who is talking to you. Never focus much on your personality. Give more chance to the other person.
- Make the conversations funny and never talk very seriously. It will help you make a good impression. It can also help the other person to build some interest in you.
- Space is very important to give in a relationship. It will help the other person open his or her mind in front of you.
- Avoid using language that is not good. It can make you lose the contact. It can upset a person who is looking forward to have a pleasing talk with you.
Above-mentioned points can serve as Online Dating Help. It will surely help you to get a person as your date. Talking further to him or her on a regular basis can make your relation smoother. To start up the communication, you can sign up to the websites dedicated for such services. These sites run for the sole aim of making an internet date a successful one. Professionals from the concerned sites can be asked about ideas that can help your love feel more special. With this technology, long distance relationships can easily be maintained.
Plain and simple. If you want people to know you, really know you. If you want to be memorable and be remembered, as an individual and leader, then consider intentionally practicing intimacy. Intimacy stands for “in-to-me-see.” To what extent do you let people see into you – by being open enough to share your likes, passions, values, hopes and dreams?
I was four, a Minnesotan visiting India. A local girl asked me for money. As a grown up, I realize what this was about, but at the time I recall being surprised she would think I had money. My parents had money, not me. I just wanted to play with her. I thought, “Why is she asking me that? I am a kid, just like she is.” I remember the feeling of her beautiful eyes on me, and I somehow knew she was not really seeing me, but seeing something I represented to her. I felt invisible.
At 15 I spent a semester in France. Older, yet still surprised when time and again French adults would talk to me about American politics in a way that was clear I represented the US government to them. I felt clearly as they spoke that I was being looked at as if I were personally accountable for the President’s actions. Again, the disconnect and distinct sensation of not being seen for who I am.
As an adult, I noticed that even people close to me had no idea of what to get me for my birthday, vs. the people whose interests are clear to everyone. It dawned on me that my intense interest in getting to know people made me a great listener, but not as good at reciprocating so that people saw in-to-me. People not knowing what I would like as a gift was a symptom of my lack of sharing enough of myself. I want people to really know me – my interests, challenges, and thoughts. I want them to feel truly connected to me rather than just knowing of me or about me. What of you do you wish more people would know and see? What would the difference be if you didn’t hold it back?
As pre-work for a peer mentoring leadership circle I led at a medical device company for Cheryl Alexander & Associates, we read Ubuntu, by Nelson and Lundin. This book introduces an African greeting meaning “I am here to see you and be seen by you.” Imagine the individual and leader we each will become if we enter into every interaction saying to ourselves “Ubuntu,” as a reminder to be open, present and focused on equally “seeing” the other person and being fully “seen.”
Tamara Sulistyo, COO, Cheryl Alexander & Associates, Inc.
In relationships, resentment can often build and build. An amazing tool that can help reduce the negative feelings is ‘clearing a withhold.’ In clearing a withhold with your partner, family member, parent, child, neighbor or friend, the following elements need to be present:
1. Safety: There needs to be a feeling of safety when engaging in difficult conversations. When something creates a riff, separation or distance between you and a loved One, it’s sensitive and vulnerable, and often triggering. Safety makes it easier, more palatable and adds ease where there may be discomfort. The first step, asking your partner whether s/he is available for a conversation, provides a container for connecting and therefore, safety. There are other aspects of safety too, of course, and the following complete the picture.
2. Respect: Without respect for each other, there’s little you can do to create deep connection. However, respect can be ruptured in little, subconscious ways. First and foremost, take your partners words and expressions as Truth. You may not agree; it may seem “irrational” to you; you may even find what s/he has said “funny.” But to your partner, it’s True — and therefore serious business. Listen beneath the surface to what they are saying. People use words but words only communicate 1/10th of what they are expressing. Get quiet and listen to your beloved. Offer reverence, and therefore respect, for their unique inner journey.
3. Willingness: This is a biggie! Are you willing to participate in a conversation that might be difficult? There ‘may’ be the reward of loving connection at the end or there may not be! (at least not right away.) You must be willing, or access a part of you that is willing, in order to open your heart to sharing (and listening well) to your partner.
4. Desire: The desire to reconnect, open to deeper love, take risks, be vulnerable — these all need to be present. We don’t clear withholds or have difficult conversations if we do not desire to be closer. Intimacy is about desire first and foremost — for connection. Tune into your own desire. Notice parts of you that are afraid. How much is okay to truly desire?
Take a moment to consider the 4 aspects above. Are they present in your relationships? Which one feels most challenging to you?
TANTRA TIP: Look over your weekend plans and determine an hour of time that you will be alone (or can be) with your sweetie. Ask him/her to spend that hour just with you. Set your timer for safety and find a designated space in your home to connect. The following are options for how to spend your time although I suggest you all do #1 first.
1. Sit face-to-face, eyes closed and breathe together. Bring your breath up from the earth to the top of your head and back down. Make your breath audible so that your partner can hear you. Breathe in and out together. After 5 minutes, open your eyes and practice with your eyes open for 5 minutes.
2. Have a stone or other sacred object available. Take turns sharing the highlights from your week. This is not a time for conversation back/forth but for each to share and be heard.
3. Offer each other appreciations.
4. Clear withholds if needed (empty your basket of resentment!)
5. Lie down both facing the same direction. The person in the back, puts one hand on her partner’s heart and the other on her belly. Breathe together. Connect and love each other.
If you are one of the hundreds of thousands of men across the world who have decided to stretch your search for love and romance overseas you probably would’ve heard about all the pitfalls of joining a Russian/Ukrainian dating site. The media is full of stories of Western men who have been scammed out of money by Russian and Ukrainian brides scammers. So do you need to worry about being scammed out of money? The answer to this is no, you do not need to worry if you use common sense it will not affect you in any way.
There are many reasons why Western men can sometimes be scammed out of money on Ukrainian brides sites, the most common reason is stupidity and often the man will only have himself to blame. This may sound a little harsh but it is the truth of the matter, in reality there is no reason whatsoever to be scammed out of any money on a Ukrainian dating site.
Some common reasons why men are victims of scammers. If you are searching the net for a Ukrainian brides site and decide to try one that is full of blonde model looking women, all looking perfect and aged 22/29 Do you really believe they are real? Of course they are not real! they are all fake, photoshop photos of girls that do not exist. Lets get real here, do you really think every women in Ukraine is a stunning catwalk model eager to sign up to a dating site to communicate with Western men, and if you are a sixty year old guy, do you really and truthfully think a beautiful young 20 something girl is going to want to communicate with you with a view to marriage? Of course not! wake up, its never going to happen. of course it can be slightly true that Ukrainian women often marry an old man, but when we talk about older we are talking 10/15 years max not 25/30 if you are stupid enough to think otherwise, then you deserve to be scammed and have only yourself to blame.
Another common reason many men fall victims of scammers is they fall for such stupid stories it is beyond belief, for example Ukraine although the country has many economic problems, it is not a backward country and is very modern in many respects, every city has good broadband internet connection enabling every girl in the country to use such services as Skype. If a girl you are communicating with says she cannot communicate with you on skype for some reason, she is telling you a story for 100%, all young Ukrainian women use Skype on a regular basis, even the older generation use Skype to keep in contact with friends and family. If she tells you she does not have skype she is telling you a lie, if you continue to communicate with her you will also become a victim of a scammer.
The bottom line here when searching for a legitimate Ukrainian brides site is to use your common sense, and the best advice is to use a Western owned and managed dating site, where you can be sure there will be at least some customer service on offer.
Best of luck on in your Ukrainian brides search.
Mediation is the process in which parties try to settle and resolve disputes, divide property, and decide child custody issues using a mediators. The purpose of the mediation process is to try to curtail a long, contentious and pricey court battle in court. A mediator is a neutral third party who seeks to facilitate a settlement or compromise to solve the case. In case you are in Long Island, you can avail divorce mediators in Long Island. Divorce lawyers advocate for their clients best interest and seek to get their client the best disposition feasible. Mediators are neutral and try to facilitate an agreement between the parties. So, if you have a mediator, there is no need for divorce attorney in Long Island as mediator can solve the issues. A mediator seeks to facilitate creative solutions to issues, disputes and feuds. Mediation occurs in a lawyers conference room and not a courtroom and ought to be less stressful than a contested detachment or infant custody battle.
Mediation ought to be less pricey than a litigated divorce. Mediation lets you resolve your detachment, infant custody dispute or law case on your schedule and not the courts schedule. Mediation is usually a lot less time consuming then a contested detachment. Mediation lets you come to a mutually agreed on result than having a disposition forced on you. Mediation sessions could also occur in the midst of a contested detachment in which both parties have detachment lawyers representing them. The parties can meet with the mediator in the midst of the divorce and seek to get a compromise that the Lawyers or Attorneys were unable to accomplish. In some divorce cases, it becomes increasingly obvious that it is the attorneys who are battling over the clients and it is the attorneys who appear to need a detachment.
A contested seperation may involve countless posturing between the parties and attorneys in court. There is often bickering and petty disputes that occurs in court. There is often countless waitings for a court hearing or trial that may seldom happen. There is often countless court dates, and nonstop continuances. The divorce technique can be a long, drawn out battle involving a gigantic amount of legal fees, limitless court appearances and incredible amounts of stress and anxiety. So the mediating way is much better than the hard-fought courtroom battles. The goal of mediator is not to ‘ensure’ a detachment but to unite the opposite parties.
Talking to guys can be difficult, but trying to establish a real connection with a man you’re interested in can seem impossible. Do you find yourself wondering how to make yourself the woman he falls madly in love with, but don’t know how? Have you had trouble communicating your feelings and desires to a certain guy? Men are complex creatures, but they are not quite as hard to figure out as you might think. Here are a few suggestions to make that deeper connection and get him to fall for you.
Let Everything Else Go
If you’re with your guy and want to focus on him, the best thing is to let everything around you not matter, even just for a few minutes. Whether it’s one of the first dates or you’ve been together for years, it’s important to make time for him mentally. Clear your head of all negative thoughts. Don’t judge him, don’t force your opinion on him, and don’t ask anything of him. Remember that every time you see him is a brand new chance to get to know him better and to get closer to him. Don’t hold on to trivial errors in your relationship or previous dates – did he expect you to pick up the check without asking? Who cares. Ask yourself this: will it affect your relationship in the long run? If not, lay it to rest. In the end, you’ll both feel better about the time you spend together if it’s not wasted rehashing things that cannot be altered. Subconsciously, he will know that you are there for only him and it will make him feel loved and attended to.
To Know Him Is to Love Him
Once all of the little details are out of the way, take a look at the man you love. How much do you know about him? From his favorite food to his career goals, there is always more to learn. Do you know his plans for the future? Does he want to stay at his current job? Does he want to get married? Is he a cat person or a dog person? All of these questions should be ones you can easily answer. You can get trapped in your own head and project your own opinions and desires onto him, which can be the kiss of death for a relationship. You will not agree on everything throughout the duration of your relationship, and it is important to recognize, address and discuss your differences in opinion. Not only will you strengthen your relationship, but you will be able to let him feel comfortable and secure in telling you his innermost thoughts. When he knows he won’t be judged, even when you don’t agree, he will be more willing to express himself to you. Accepting his preferences even when they don’t mirror your own proves that you are a willing partner and let him feel much closer to you.
Ask Yourself How He Feels
A good method to empathizing with anyone is to try to imagine a situation from their perspective. This is especially true of men in relationships. When you have difficulties or arguments, stop for a moment and consider where he’s coming from. Think about what the motivation for his argument is and why it seems valid to him. You don’t have to resolve the issue at hand, but it will make a great impact on your ability to communicate with him in these times of high stress and raw emotion.
If you really want your man to fall madly in love with you, the only way is to establish a deep, lasting bond with him. Giving him a safe place to express himself that is free from aggression is a step in the right direction. Once he trusts you wholeheartedly, he can’t help but fall in love with you.
Hannah Fairfield is a dating and relationship expert. Her passion is to write informative articles for women who want to improve their love lives. Visit her site for more information.
In his book, “The Way of the Superior Man”, the author David Deida talks about the masculine energy and the feminine energy. The masculine energy is characterized by a free spirit, while the feminine energy is mainly about finding a sense of security and stability. This pretty much explains why most women look forward to settling down, and why most men value their freedom.
From the time they are little girls, women dream about getting married to her dream guy and building a nice little family. This is basically why the ladies are attracted to men who appear to have their stuff together – those with more-or-less stable jobs or good plans for their lives. Women aren’t necessarily drawn to men who are rich or powerful, but they typically like guys who are responsible, assertive and motivated.
When a man falls in love with a woman, he senses that desire in her and seeks to provide the stability and security that she longs for. In the meantime, he feels the need to fulfill his craving for freedom, and this causes a constant conflict within him – but that inner conflict isn’t really what I want to focus on right now. I want to discuss how you can be a man that women are attracted to, simply by being aware of women’s nature.
Keep in mind that a female is essentially interested in a male who can be her rock – someone who is strong (not necessarily physically), stable and solid. She wants a man who can take care of her, the kind of man she can count on.
The way a guy approaches a girl is crucial: When you come up to her and show even the tiniest lack of self-confidence, that immediately becomes a reason for her not to be attracted to you. Anything like fidgeting, waffling, a limp handshake, or a failure to make eye contact can be an instant turn off; that kind of behavior tells her you don’t trust yourself, and therefore she couldn’t depend on you. If she senses that you can’t be her rock, she easily loses interest.
Whenever you approach a woman, make it a point to see yourself as a rock. You will definitely need to have a good attitude toward yourself to exude confidence. As you get ready to come up to her, breathe deeply; shake off all timidity and insecurity. Tell yourself you’ve got this. Show no doubt – not even a hint. Be solid and well-composed. However, remember to maintain a good balance: You should neither be an arrogant, macho jerk nor a spineless, cowardly wimp; you should instead be a man who maintains an air of superiority while being able to be sensitive to a woman.
Be equipped to initiate the conversation, making sure to speak clearly and confidently. Speak sincerely from your heart – there’s no need to make things up just to impress her. If you know what to say and are able to say it at the right time, this shows a lady that you could be her rock.
The next time you come up to a woman at a club, keep these things in mind. Believe that you are the kind of man she can count on, so you can easily show it without having to say it.
By the way, do you want the simple secret for approaching any woman, anywhere and know exactly what to say to get her number?
What Is Numerology Love?
As with many fields of divination, Numerology is useful in ascertaining a wide range of information and truths regarding a great number of things. “Numerology Love” is as apt a term as any to describe the manner by which one might determine a couple’s romantic compatibility with one another using numerical divination. Numerology love compatibility relies on the given numerical attributes of the individuals in question; these attributes are discerned through dates of birth. Corresponding emotional characteristics are derived from the numeric value of the individual’s date of birth.
Mathematics Mixed With Spirituality
Numerology love compatibility is vital in establishing how successful a relationship based on the concept of numerology love will turn out. There are a variety of possible numerical systems and mathematics involved in establishing the base rules of numerology compatibility, as well as the subsequent retrieval of reliable individual characteristics divined through numerology. Accurately following through in fulfilling the prerequisites and providing honest information is the key to yielding results. Numerology Compatibility is very much a spiritual practice, and is to be treated with respect, due diligence, and one must be prepared to honor and properly emulate the time-tested traditions and practices of the study.
A Self-fulfilling Prophecy
Though numerology may not be considered by many to be a “serious” means of study or a method of divination with any real weight behind its teachings, there still exists a loyal following, as ‘archaic’ as some may argue it to be. As with many similar fields of study, numerology is rooted deeply in spirituality and abstract notions of divining purpose, meaning, and truth from something that lies out of the individual’s control. While some may be put off by the apparent lack of a factual foundation by which to back up the methodology of numerology, it can be a very beneficial asset for the deeply spiritual or those who put more stock in the unseen or “paranormal”. Therein lies one of the most powerful “truths” of numerology, or any other divination; the power of the self-fulfilling prophecy, or the manner in which our very perceptions and beliefs may shape our destiny.
The Reality Of Numerology
Some people believe that Numerology is so arbitrary that anyone could formulate any outcome they wish by simply manipulating the power and influences of the numbers.The opposite is true however, as a trained numerologist number interpreter must work within the guidelines of the “modes” of numerology to assess and reveal any analysis at all.